Hi Peter,
The forces for heeling the boat are more gentle than the pitching forces when sailing against the wind and seas. When I used wedges, I still had to use some sealing/ gluing agent to prevent the mast from moving upwards. I tried to use a bolt, a long 6mm stainless steel, but that bent(!), so sealing agent was the right remedy. On Marie G I have used Spartite, both in the mast step and at the partners, smearing both parts with gear oil SAE 80. The mast show no sign of moving or turning, so it seems to be well mounted to the boat. I hope that lifting it will be not too much of a pantomime, but I am prepared to use compressed air in the mast step to get the mast moving. (Venting hole is drilled and ready). Refitting the mast and sealing/ gluing it in place, I plan to cut a step in the Spartite at the upper outer edge and fill that with a sealing agent. When pulling out the mast of Edmond Dantes, I had to cut away the sealing agent and knock out the wedges, pull out the wedges at the step and that was it, no drama. My thinking is that you sail at lot, and needs to have the mast firmly in place. Lifting it every 2nd or 3rd year could be a lot of work, but it goes on a few hours at worst.
My favorite saying is: Be happy you are born, not everybody are. In this forum it will be: Stop worrying, go sailing.
Good luck and enjoy Malliemack.